In addition to being a writer, Tisdale is a Buddhist practitioner and teacher, a nurse, and an end-of-life educator who le workshops on preparing for death; her depth of experience at the side of the dying is apparent. In these essays, Tisdale tells of the Susano area for drinks of her Zen teacher, her mother, her close friend Carol, and others she has known, and asks questions many of us avoid: How do we define death?
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You can say it when you want, and to whom you want. Most of what I offer here is for the visitor, the companion, the helper. You have to follow some rules. Then think about how you communicate more urgent news: I wrecked the car.
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You are the defender of modesty, privacy, silence, laughter, and many other things that can be lost in the daily tasks. You will become a gatekeeper.
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Everyone needs a gatekeeper! Be the one who can say with a smile, Goodbye, Aunt Lucille.
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Hurray for those friends. But you may also meet what the writer Glennon Doyle Melton calls the Fixer. This is the person who is certain that my situation is a question and she knows the answer.
The Fixer is on the edge of her seat, ready with the solution.
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